{"id":30,"date":"2021-11-13T05:49:25","date_gmt":"2021-11-13T05:49:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/swingero.com\/?p=30"},"modified":"2024-08-02T06:16:24","modified_gmt":"2024-08-02T06:16:24","slug":"what-actually-happens-in-a-swinger-club","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/swingero.com\/et\/mis-tegelikult-toimub-swinger-klubis\/","title":{"rendered":"Mis toimub swingerklubis?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Sisukord<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a62bf1b80641\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseprofile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6a62bf1b80641\"  aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/swingero.com\/et\/mis-tegelikult-toimub-swinger-klubis\/#Introduction_What_is_a_swingers_club\" >Sissejuhatus: Mis on swingerklubi?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/swingero.com\/et\/mis-tegelikult-toimub-swinger-klubis\/#What_should_I_expect\" >Mida ma peaksin ootama?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/swingero.com\/et\/mis-tegelikult-toimub-swinger-klubis\/#Otherwise_you_have_absolutely_nothing_to_fear\" >Muidu pole teil absoluutselt midagi karta.<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/swingero.com\/et\/mis-tegelikult-toimub-swinger-klubis\/#How_do_I_meet_someone_there\" >Kuidas ma seal kellegagi kohtun?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<p>Kui te esimest korda swingerklubi sisenete, v\u00f5ite tunda p\u00f5nevust ja n\u00e4rvilisust. Kuid v\u00f5ite olla kindel, et karta pole midagi. Swingerklubid on k\u00fclalislahked ruumid, kus samasuguste m\u00f5tetega inimesed saavad oma seksuaalsust uurida turvalises ja konsensuslikus keskkonnas.<\/p>\n<p>Swingerklubis v\u00f5id oodata, et sa n\u00e4ed igas vanuses, vormis ja suuruses inimesi. K\u00f5ik on seal \u00fchel ja samal p\u00f5hjusel - et end h\u00e4sti tunda ja oma fantaasiaid avastada. Ei ole mingit survet osaleda milleski, mis ei ole sulle mugav, ja n\u00f5usolek on alati peamine.<\/p>\n<p>Swingerklubi sees v\u00f5ite olla tunnistajaks mitmesugustele tegevustele, mis toimuvad. M\u00f5ned paarid v\u00f5ivad veeta omavahel intiimseid hetki, samas kui teised segunevad ja suhtlevad teiste k\u00fclalistega. Seal v\u00f5ivad olla eraviisilisemateks kohtumisteks etten\u00e4htud ruumid, n\u00e4iteks m\u00e4ngutuba v\u00f5i pimedad nurgad diskreetsemateks tegevusteks.<\/p>\n<p>Swingeripeol v\u00f5ib oodata segu ekshibitsionismist ja voyeurismist. M\u00f5ned k\u00fclalised v\u00f5ivad nautida seda, kui nad vaatavad teisi seksuaalakti sooritamas, samas kui teised v\u00f5ivad endalegi meeldivamalt osaleda. Atmosf\u00e4\u00e4r on tavaliselt pingevaba ja mittesoorituslik, mis v\u00f5imaldab k\u00f5igil end vabalt tunda ja oma soove v\u00e4ljendada.<\/p>\n<p>See, mis swingerklubis v\u00f5i seksiklubis toimub, on l\u00f5ppkokkuv\u00f5ttes sinu enda otsustada. Olenemata sellest, kas olete seal vaatlemiseks, suhtlemiseks v\u00f5i omaenda piiride avastamiseks, on see kogemus t\u00e4ielikult see, mida te ise sellest teete. Pea lihtsalt meeles, et suhtled oma partneriga avalikult ja austad teiste piire, ning sul on kindlasti meeldej\u00e4\u00e4v ja nauditav aeg swinging-kogukonnas.<\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>Paljude inimeste jaoks on swinger-klubi \u00fcks esimesi kohti, kus nad tegelikult hakkavad kasutama avatud suhte seksuaalset vabadust. Seda enam, et enne esimest k\u00fclastust valitseb sageli ebakindlus ja v\u00e4\u00e4rinfo selle kohta, mis on tegelikult swingerklubi, mis seal toimub ja kas sinna tasub \u00fcldse minna.<\/p>\n<p>Ainus teave, mida selle kohta v\u00f5ib leida, on sageli klubide endi poolt pakutav teave, mis aga ei tundu igasuguse loogika kohaselt olevat v\u00e4ga usaldusv\u00e4\u00e4rne ausa teabe allikas.<\/p>\n<p>Seet\u00f5ttu tahaksin siinkohal r\u00e4\u00e4kida, mida t\u00e4pselt v\u00f5ite oodata, mida v\u00f5ite t\u00e4hele panna ja muidugi ka m\u00f5ned levinud eelarvamused maha teha!<\/p>\n<p>Ja l\u00fchike m\u00e4rkus teile: Ma kirjutan siin ainult heteroseksuaalsetest swinger-klubidest.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Introduction_What_is_a_swingers_club\"><\/span>Sissejuhatus: Mis on swingerklubi?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>First of all, a swingers club is a place where people meet who are interested in partner swapping or even just voyeuristic or exhibitionistic behavior. Not everyone who goes to a swingers club wants to have sex with people other than their partner. And not everyone has the same ideas about what is okay and what is not. You have to make these rules for yourself and, if necessary, in agreement with your companion, and they are supported by the fact that a clear no is binding in any case and is protected by the club&#8217;s house rules. Who does not keep to a clear no will be kicked out. This rule can be found in absolutely every club, and usually it is explicitly stated somewhere on the homepage.<\/p>\n<p>Valdav enamus swinger-klubisid on \u00fcles ehitatud v\u00e4ga sarnaselt. Seal on vastuv\u00f5tt, kus te maksate ja tavaliselt saate kapi v\u00f5tme (mida jagatakse paarina). Seal k\u00fcsitakse ka, kas olete seal varem k\u00e4inud, ja kui ei ole, siis pakutakse teile sageli giidiga ekskursiooni, kus saate k\u00f5ike vaadata, tavaliselt ilma sissep\u00e4\u00e4sutasuta.<\/p>\n<p>Kuskil on unisex-pesuruum, kus saab \u00fcmber riietuda ja oma asjad \u00e4ra panna. Seal on baar, kus saab tavaliselt tasuta jooke. See h\u00f5lmab sageli, kuid mitte alati, alkohoolseid jooke. Lisaks on tavaliselt buffet enam-v\u00e4hem hea toiduga, mis on samuti hinna sees.<\/p>\n<p>Lisaks on klubi tavaliselt jagatud kaheks alaks, ametlikuks osaks ja m\u00e4ngualaks. Ametlikus osas on k\u00f5ik need asjad, mida ma just loetlesin, tavaliselt on seal ka tantsup\u00f5rand. Paljudel klubidel on riietuskood, selle ametliku osa jaoks. Enamasti on reeglites \u00f6eldud midagi sellist, et soovitav on m\u00f5istlikult \u0161ikk v\u00f5i seksikas riietus ja mida hilisemaks \u00f5htu l\u00e4heb, seda v\u00e4hem t\u00e4htis on \u00fcldse midagi kanda. Enamasti lubatakse teil enne k\u00f5iki teisi aluspesu seljas v\u00f5i \u00e4\u00e4rmiselt kergelt riietatuna ringi k\u00e4ia, ilma et teid h\u00e4iriksid. Selles ametlikus osas ei ole tavaliselt midagi muud oodata kui rohkem alastust, kui te muidu harjunud olete. Aeg-ajalt tuleb ette veidi j\u00f5ulisemat hellitamist v\u00f5i suuseksi, kuid enamasti viiakse see tegevus \u00fcsna kiiresti m\u00e4nguruumidesse.<\/p>\n<p>M\u00e4nguala koosneb tavaliselt mitmest ruumist, mis on kaetud mattidega. H\u00fcgieenilistel p\u00f5hjustel on allapoole asetatavad r\u00e4tikud ning kondoomid ja salvr\u00e4tikud k\u00e4eulatuses. Nendes m\u00e4nguruumides saab, nagu v\u00f5ite arvata, seksida.<\/p>\n<p>The play areas usually have different &#8220;themes&#8221;. There are smaller and larger play areas and often also areas in which two or four people can withdraw and make the room &#8220;closed&#8221;, so that no one else comes in. But that doesn&#8217;t mean that no one else is watching &#8211; you have to expect that.<\/p>\n<p>Need v\u00e4ikesed ruumid on tavaliselt v\u00e4ga tihedalt h\u00f5ivatud ja seet\u00f5ttu ei tohiks teid h\u00e4irida, kui need on \"h\u00f5ivatud\" - kui te veidi ootate, saavad need ruumid l\u00f5puks j\u00e4lle vabaks.<\/p>\n<p>The play areas are comfortable for about 8 to 20 people and there is often a voyeuristic element, i.e. even when the play area is &#8220;full&#8221; there are usually still places to watch from. It&#8217;s not surprising that something usually happens in these crowds and sometimes, ironically, more happens there than on the playgrounds themselves.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_should_I_expect\"><\/span>Mida ma peaksin ootama?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>K\u00f5igepealt: Vahepeal on absoluutselt igas swinger-klubis selge \"Ei t\u00e4hendab ei\" reegel. Seda reeglit toetab asjaolu, et iga\u00fcks, kes seda reeglit ei j\u00e4rgi, lendab ilma tagasimakseta v\u00e4lja ja saab klubist v\u00e4ljasaatmise.<\/p>\n<p>This rule can be a bit confusing at first, because it forces you to behave differently than you would elsewhere. On the one hand, you have to have the courage to actually say no if you don&#8217;t want something. A no can be verbal or it can simply mean that you put away the hand that you suddenly feel somewhere on you. On the other hand, it also gives you security. If you change your mind after a no and you still feel like it, you can cancel your no by communicating clearly again.<\/p>\n<p>Juba ainu\u00fcksi see reegel v\u00f5ib muuta swingerklubi k\u00fclastuse teie jaoks v\u00e4ga tasuvaks. Siin saate, kui te seda veel ei tee, elada v\u00e4lja oma enesem\u00e4\u00e4ratletud seksuaalsust selgelt reguleeritud raamistikus.<\/p>\n<p>Furthermore, you have to expect that you will see other people having sex. And you must expect to hear and smell these people. Even if you personally do not find these people aesthetically pleasing and normally would not like to look at them naked. Of course you can always just look away, but to know where you don&#8217;t want to look, you have seen it before.<\/p>\n<p>This is much less bad than you might think now. At the end of the day, we&#8217;re all just people, and even people who don&#8217;t meet your own aesthetic standards have fun having sex and a right to do so. That&#8217;s all it is. People who appear unhygienic usually don&#8217;t even come in. However, the smell in the air may bother you. This has nothing to do with a lack of hygiene, but simply with the fact that many people who have sex produce a particular odor. Especially because there won&#8217;t be any windows wide open for reasons of discretion.<\/p>\n<p>J\u00e4rgmise punkti juurde: Kui te olete oma kaaslasega avalikus m\u00e4ngus, v\u00f5ite eeldada, et ka teie \u00fcmber olevad inimesed seksivad. Eriti kui need inimesed on tihedas f\u00fc\u00fcsilises l\u00e4heduses, on v\u00f5imalik, et mingil hetkel tatistab k\u00e4si ettevaatlikult \u00fcle ja puudutab k\u00f5igepealt m\u00f5nda s\u00fc\u00fctut kohta, n\u00e4iteks \u00f5lga v\u00f5i jalga.<\/p>\n<p>If you don&#8217;t want that to happen, you can put your hand away at that point or speak up against it. You can also say &#8220;Stop.&#8221; at any later time. However, you should feel able to do this when visiting a swingers club. If for some reason you and\/or your companion are not able to set boundaries, I would advise against a visit to a swingers club.<\/p>\n<p>If you have chosen a club that allows solo males, you can expect that there will be masturbating men somewhere. You should take that into account in this case. Most of the time, it doesn&#8217;t take much more than body language to let these men know that they can&#8217;t do more than look. From an appropriate distance, however, they can not be stopped from watching. (And no, don&#8217;t worry, you won&#8217;t get splashed, that would result in a ban for the respective gentlemen). Often there is also an area where only couples have access.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00f5ib juhtuda, et teid v\u00f5i teie kaaslast v\u00f5i teid m\u00f5lemaid tabatakse koos. Siiski on need pealev\u00f5tmiskatsed tavaliselt palju tagasihoidlikumad ja vaiksemad kui tavalises \u00f6\u00f6klubi keskkonnas.<\/p>\n<p>It is also common to have several small groups of people who already know each other and also mainly talk to each other, with little approaching of new people. If you are shy, you may feel like you are the only ones who don&#8217;t know anyone else. But you can quickly change that if you simply approach someone from these groups in a friendly and open manner, or look around to see who else is there &#8220;alone&#8221;.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Otherwise_you_have_absolutely_nothing_to_fear\"><\/span>Muidu pole teil absoluutselt midagi karta.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Kui see on nii, siis miks nii paljud inimesed kardavad nii palju swinger- ja paarisklubisid? Tegelikult v\u00f5iks ju iga\u00fcks minna sinna ja vaadata koos oma kaaslasega live-pornot? Jah, t\u00e4pselt, seda v\u00f5iks teha! Swingerklubi sisenemine ei kohusta teid seksima, isegi mitte aktiivsele seksuaalsusele \u00fcldse. Sa v\u00f5id sinna minna ka lihtsalt s\u00f6\u00f6ma ja\/v\u00f5i jooma, kui sa seda soovid. (V\u00f5imalus, mida v\u00f5in igale naisele soovitada. Naised ei maksa swingers-klubides tavaliselt peaaegu mingit sissep\u00e4\u00e4sutasu, aga sellest hiljem rohkem).<\/p>\n<p>See, et swingerklubide k\u00fclastamine ei ole siiski nii laialt levinud, on minu arvates tingitud m\u00f5ningatest eelarvamustest ja valeinformatsioonist.<\/p>\n<p>Eelarvamused: Faktid ja m\u00fc\u00fcdid<br \/>\nEelarvamused: Seal on ainult vanad inimesed<br \/>\nPaljudel noortel on eelarvamus, et swingimine on midagi, mida teeb ainult 60+ p\u00f5lvkond, ja et vastavalt sellele leiavad nad sellistes klubides enamasti vanu h\u00e4rrasmehi, kes peavad neid \"v\u00e4rskeks lihaks\". L\u00fchidalt \u00f6eldes: see ei ole nii.<\/p>\n<p>Paljudes swinger-klubides on publiku keskmine vanus 35-45 aastat. Kogemused n\u00e4itavad, et vahemik ulatub 18-st kuni 75-ni, mis t\u00e4hendab, et jah, on ka vanemaid inimesi. Aga mitte ainult. See s\u00f5ltub ka sellest, milline on klubi publik, tavaliselt saab selle suhteliselt lihtsalt ja kiiresti v\u00e4ikese trikiga v\u00e4lja selgitada. (Selgitan seda trikki edasi artiklis).<\/p>\n<p>Kui m\u00f5te vanematest inimestest teeb teid v\u00e4ga rahutuks, siis on olemas ka spetsiaalsed noorte paaride \u00f6\u00f6d, kus keskmine vanus on alla 30 aasta.<\/p>\n<p>Head up: Need on tavaliselt kuude kaupa ette broneeritud. Kindlasti on suur n\u00f5udlus nooremas vanuseklassis.<\/p>\n<p>Eelarvamused: Seal on ainult chavs<br \/>\nMany people think that most people in the swinger scene are &#8220;simple-minded&#8221; or simply stupid. I don&#8217;t know where this prejudice comes from, but I can say that it is not true.<\/p>\n<p>Fakt on: Swingerite stseen on l\u00e4bil\u00f5ige (peaaegu) k\u00f5igist sotsiaalsetest klassidest. Seal kohtad inimesi, kellel on haridus, inimesi, kellel on kontorit\u00f6\u00f6 ja inimesi, kellel on doktorikraad ja nii edasi ja nii edasi. Sa kohtad seal mitte ainult oma sotsiaalset keskkonda, vaid ka inimesi, kellega sul muidu v\u00e4hem pistmist on. Ainult n\u00f5rgemat sotsiaalset klassi ei leia siit tavaliselt, sest nad lihtsalt ei saa endale lubada sissep\u00e4\u00e4sutasu maksmist.<\/p>\n<p>Eelarvamused: Seal on ainult professionaalsed daamid<br \/>\nSee on samuti eelarvamus, mis ei vasta t\u00f5ele. Ma ei tea seadust, aga siiani olen leidnud igalt kodulehelt, olgu see siis k\u00f5ige v\u00e4iksema maakonnaklubi koduleht, reegli, et professionaalsed seksit\u00f6\u00f6tajad on selgelt mitte teretulnud ja sellest tuleb kohe teatada, kui tekib kahtlus, et keegi on siin raha teenimas.<\/p>\n<p>It may be that there are such clubs. However, a quick internet search leads to an extremely clear result. Why should it be different? People who want to buy sexual services go to a brothel and not to a swingers club. So, apart from a few black sheep that may exist, there is no sex for sale in the swinger scene. Everyone pays admission and that&#8217;s it. You don&#8217;t buy a guarantee of sex, even if it is sometimes claimed otherwise at men&#8217;s surplus parties.<\/p>\n<p>Eelarvamused: Swingers on pol\u00fc<br \/>\nA prejudice I once had myself for a while is the idea that everyone who goes to a swingers club also has an open relationship. That&#8217;s not the case. Some couples actually go there just to see and be seen, and many other couples have clear rules about how far they want to go. Many there don&#8217;t even want a partner swap and I was admittedly surprised at first when I realized this myself for the first time.<\/p>\n<p>And to emphasize it again very clearly: Very few swingers live polyamory. So you really don&#8217;t need to go there if you hope to find a complement for your open relationship. The swinger scene is even one of the last places where I would do that. Swingers have often shed the restriction of sexual exclusivity in an impressive way &#8211; but only within this strictly defined framework. Many do absolutely nothing outside of such events and almost all of them exclude an emotional connection to another partner. Of course, you can meet someone now and then for whom this is different &#8211; but it is not the rule.<\/p>\n<p>Klubi valik: Swingers v\u00f5i paaride klubi?<br \/>\nK\u00f5igepealt tuleb m\u00e4rkida, et erinevate swinger-klubide vahel on suured erinevused. M\u00f5nda klubi ei nimetata swingerklubideks, vaid paaride klubideks, sest sinna v\u00f5etakse vastu segatud soost paarid, mitte \u00fcksikisikud. Teie ja teie kaaslase t\u00e4pset suhet ei kontrollita.<\/p>\n<p>Ja siit saabki alustada klubi valimist: Mida sa tahad? Mida sa julged teha? Ja millised on teie n\u00f5udmised?<\/p>\n<p>Paaride klubi eeliseks on see, et seal ei ole soolomehi. Kui traditsioonilisi swinger-klubisid rahastavad peamiselt soolomehi, siis paarklubidesse, nagu nimigi \u00fctleb, lubatakse ainult paare. See t\u00e4hendab, et iga seal viibiva daami ja h\u00e4rrasmehe kohta on seal ka vastaspool ja seega ei ole seal ebav\u00f5rdne sooline suhe. Eriti kui oled veel veidi ebakindel, v\u00f5id alustuseks valida paarisklubi. Paljud sealsed paarid on samuti Swingeri stseenis uued ja seet\u00f5ttu \u00fcsna ebakindlad. Seet\u00f5ttu juhtub keskmiselt v\u00e4hem, sest paljud ei julge (veel) solvuda.<\/p>\n<p>Pikka aega olid mul eelarvamused swingerklubide suhtes, mis lubavad ka soolomehi, kuid mind \u00f5petati paremaks.<\/p>\n<p>Esimene ilmne eelis on see, et swingerklubid on palju odavamad. Paarid maksavad v\u00e4hem ja soolo daamid tavaliselt peaaegu mitte midagi. \u00dcksikmehed maksavad palju rohkem ja uksel on rangem valik.<\/p>\n<p>This is also immediately a tip to any woman reading here: If you are a crazy nature and like to experience something new, grab a girlfriend and go with her to such a club. You won&#8217;t get cheaper food and drink as much as you want anywhere, in addition of course to the evening entertainment and the dance floor. You don&#8217;t have to have sex if you don&#8217;t want to &#8211; you can if you want to.<\/p>\n<p>Teine eelis on see, et teil on rohkem valikuv\u00f5imalusi. Paaride klubid ei ole nii levinud kui swinger-klubid. Igal juhul, olenemata sellest, millises Saksamaa pesas v\u00f5i ur-katoliku piirkonnas te elate, v\u00f5ite olla suhteliselt kindel, et kuskil on swingerklubi vastuv\u00f5etava k\u00e4eulatuse kaugusel - ei ole nii kindel, et sama kehtib ka paarisklubide kohta.<\/p>\n<p>Viimane eelis on, nii absurdne kui see ka ei k\u00f5la: soolomehi.<\/p>\n<p>Erinevalt paaride klubist on seal soolo h\u00e4rrasmehed, kellel on k\u00f5rgendatud huvi teiste tundma\u00f5ppimise vastu ja kes on aktiivsed. See v\u00f5ib teid ja teie kaaslast ebamugavaks teha, kui olete kogenematu v\u00f5i kui teie suhtes m\u00e4ngib rolli armukadedus. Mina isiklikult olen \u00f5ppinud seda \u00f5hkkonda hindama. Kuigi ma ei ole kunagi olnud huvitatud oma vastavate saatjatega solistidest h\u00e4rrasmeestest, loovad nad siiski atmosf\u00e4\u00e4ri, kus on rohkem avatud ja rohkem flirtimist - ja seet\u00f5ttu toimub rohkem kui paarisklubis. Kindlasti s\u00f5ltub see ka klubi t\u00e4psest valikust.<\/p>\n<p>You will probably meet solo ladies, but you should not expect to have a threesome with two women and one man, even if it is possible &#8211; don&#8217;t count on it.<\/p>\n<p>Parim n\u00f5uanne, et teha konkreetne otsus klubi jaoks, on eelk\u00f5ige koduleht ja \u00fcrituse enda kirjeldus. Paljudel swingerklubidel on \"paaride \u00f5htu\" ja paljudel on ka mitmesuguseid muid teema\u00f5htuid. Nii et kui soovite koos oma kaaslasega uudishimulikuna paarina swingerklubi k\u00fclastada, siis peaksite ilmselt valima pigem sellise paaride \u00f6\u00f6 kui \"hardcore XXL meeste \u00fclej\u00e4\u00e4kide peo\", mis seal samuti toimuvad. Kui te muidugi ei soovi.<\/p>\n<p>The next good step is to create a profile on Joyclub and see who has signed up for that particular party. Good parties are often booked up months in advance. In addition, you can estimate the average age of the participants, as well as the social class, if you value such things. All this information together usually gives you a pretty good picture of what kind of club it is and what kind of crowd will probably be there that night. This picture is, in my experience, much more accurate than what the clubs themselves give you in terms of age average or what the homepage makes for an impression. That&#8217;s why I think Joyclub research is a good solution if you want to take a closer look. You can also find special events in places that are not normally a swingers club. A basic profile is free as a couple at Joyclub.<\/p>\n<p>Olge teadlik, et alati on plusse ja miinuseid! V\u00e4ikesed pereklubid lihtsustavad kontakte, suured klubid lasevad sul rahulikult oma piire tunnetada. Odavates klubides on sageli meeldiv s\u00fcdamlikkus, kallites klubides n\u00e4evad inimesed sageli ilusamad v\u00e4lja ja nii edasi ja nii edasi.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_do_I_meet_someone_there\"><\/span>Kuidas ma seal kellegagi kohtun?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Te v\u00f5ite juba teada k\u00f5iki neid asju, kui olete varem klubis k\u00e4inud, v\u00f5i v\u00f5ite neid \u00f5ppida, kui k\u00fclastate \u00fchte klubi avatud meelega. \u00f5ppida neid, kui k\u00fclastate \u00fchte klubi avatud meelega. Siiski on mul teile m\u00f5ned lisanipid, mis v\u00f5ivad teid aidata ka siis, kui olete varem klubis k\u00e4inud v\u00f5i kui see k\u00f5ik ei ole teile midagi uut.<\/p>\n<p>The mistake that many couples make when they go to a club for the first time is that they think everything happens there without them having to do anything. Most women are used to just being flirted with and most men don&#8217;t really know how to hit on a couple. Both in combination often leads to many couples being unsure and not really knowing what to do. The other couples present are probably just as insecure, and therefore little or nothing happens in the end. Yet the whole thing is not that difficult. There are basically three good ways to do partner swapping, if that is the goal.<\/p>\n<p>Aeglane viis inimestele, kes ei taha tagasil\u00fckkamist<br \/>\nThe slow way is basically not much different from an everyday flirting situation, except that it&#8217;s relatively clear to everyone involved what the deal is. You should try to be relatively on time for the start of the party. This is the phase when everyone is still wandering around the dance area or clustering around the buffet. You just join in this dance, but look for contact. These clubs are usually designed to make it easy to find contact. You can just sit down at the table with another couple or couples. You can stand next to another couple at the bar or on the dance floor, or other random scenarios.<\/p>\n<p>A simple &#8220;Hello&#8221;, or &#8220;Where are you from?&#8221; is usually quite enough here, no one expects quantum physics from you. On the contrary, everyone is well aware that having sex with each other is a possibility during the course of the evening, so there is often a high willingness to get to know each other quickly. At any point in the conversation, you can ask directly if the couple in question would like to join you on one of the playgrounds. If you have the feeling that they are not quite sure yet &#8211; this can often be because each of them is afraid of catching their own partner off guard &#8211; you can simply say that you are going &#8220;upstairs&#8221; now. Or just go to where the playgrounds are located in the club in question and just see if the two of you follow. If you were sympathetic to each other, this usually works pretty well. If the whole thing doesn&#8217;t work, just go back and repeat the procedure &#8211; eventually it will work out!<\/p>\n<p>This way is also especially suitable as a solo lady, because here you are in a relatively comfortable position and probably want to avoid making the gentleman&#8217;s lady jealous.<\/p>\n<p>Kiire viis, kui kannatust on v\u00e4hem<br \/>\nThe fast way is very similar to the slow way, but it involves a much higher level of eroticism and physical contact. This means you choose a couch or the dance floor rather than the dining area as your point of contact and, after a brief introductory conversation, start kissing and getting hot with your partner. If they are not interested, they usually leave pretty quickly at this point. If they are interested, they usually start to do the same and after a short time the &#8220;hands start to wander&#8221; to see how the other couple reacts. If the ice is broken to the sexual you can then relatively quickly start to flirt offensively. It doesn&#8217;t matter which of you starts it, because the second part of the couple will almost automatically start talking to the corresponding counterpart. The only important thing is that you try not to provoke jealousy by keeping the progress of your flirting synchronized. If you notice that one of the two is moving too fast, or is suspicious of what his or her partner is doing, just push him or her back to their partner. Let the two of them feel safe with each other and give them a chance to leave or talk things out and start over again a little slower if necessary. Or, alternatively, try it with another couple.<\/p>\n<p>\u00dclikiire viis, kui tead t\u00e4pselt, mida tahad.<br \/>\nThis way is for all those who don&#8217;t really want to get to know anyone, but just want to have sex and swap partners. To my knowledge this way is a speciality of the swinger scene and I haven&#8217;t seen it working like this anywhere else.<\/p>\n<p>As soon as you feel like it, go to a playground. Pick one where there is room for several couples. If you are relatively attractive and\/or young, it doesn&#8217;t matter if the playground is completely empty beforehand &#8211; people will come, don&#8217;t worry.<\/p>\n<p>Lihtsalt hakake seal koos l\u00f5butsema v\u00f5i lamage m\u00f5ne teile huvipakkuva paari l\u00e4hedal ja hakake l\u00f5butsema. Tavaliselt kulub maksimaalselt paar minutit, enne kui esimesed k\u00e4ed \u00fcle r\u00e4ndavad v\u00f5i muul viisil kontakti tekivad. Kogu see asi k\u00e4ib peaaegu automaatselt, ilma suurema jutuajamise v\u00f5i pingutamiseta.<\/p>\n<p>If you are afraid of not being attractive enough, just wait until your chosen couple is a bit more &#8220;into it&#8221; before approaching. Often the standards of attractiveness become almost completely blurred while you&#8217;re aroused, and you&#8217;ll probably notice in yourself that your criteria can shift quite a bit and you suddenly enjoy having sex with people who might not have matched your own preferences before. This is not bad or strange, it is simply normal that horniness has this effect. And you can also take advantage of this.<\/p>\n<p>To the best of my knowledge, this &#8220;super fast way&#8221; works almost always and for almost everyone, although of course not with everyone. By going to a big playground and not to a small corner, you have filtered out the people who are not interested in exchanging partners and touching each other almost from the beginning. Of course, it&#8217;s also a bit more random with whom you have fun. But in my opinion, it&#8217;s a very interesting experience to realize that maybe that&#8217;s not always so important.<\/p>\n<p>See n\u00f5uanne on m\u00f5eldud peamiselt paaridele, kes on endaga rahul. Seda n\u00f5uannet ei tohiks eelistatavalt kasutada soolomehi, sest seal viib see pigem eelpool mainitud \"marginaalse wankeri\" n\u00e4htuseni ja v\u00e4hesed paarid leiavad seda t\u00f5esti atraktiivseks.<\/p>\n<p>Salajane n\u00f5uanne: Flirtige!<br \/>\nAs last I would like to give you still another important tip on the way. In many clubs, just because people often end up having sex with each other, doesn&#8217;t mean that they have better basic communication skills.<\/p>\n<p>Nii et kui sa lihtsalt flirtid sellises klubis normaalselt ja pingutad, nagu looduses, siis paistad sa juba m\u00e4rkimisv\u00e4\u00e4rselt v\u00e4lja keskmisest. Ole v\u00f5luv. \u00c4ra karda. Flirtige teistega, v\u00f5tke f\u00fc\u00fcsilist kontakti, tantsige. R\u00e4\u00e4gi, kui naljakas on sinu arvates siin olla ja kuidas sa end tunned v\u00f5i et sa olid kohutavalt n\u00e4rvis, kui sa siia s\u00f5itsid. Tehes neid asju, mis on igap\u00e4evases flirtimises iseenesestm\u00f5istetavad, on teil parim v\u00f5imalus teha midagi just selle paariga, kellega te soovite seksuaalselt aktiivne olla. Sa pead lihtsalt hetkeks unustama selle tagam\u00f5tte, mis k\u00f5igil on: \"Kas me hakkame hiljem seksima?\", ja tuletama meelde, kes on sinu ees: normaalsete hirmude ja ebakindlusega inimesed, kellele meeldib l\u00f5butseda ja kellele meeldib, et neid romantiseeritakse, ja kellele meeldib, et nad on olnud.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kui te esimest korda swingerklubi sisenete, v\u00f5ite tunda p\u00f5nevust ja n\u00e4rvilisust. Kuid v\u00f5ite olla kindel, et karta pole midagi. Swingerklubid on k\u00fclalislahked ruumid, kus samasuguste m\u00f5tetega inimesed saavad oma seksuaalsust uurida turvalises ja konsensuslikus keskkonnas. 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