There are many women in the liberal environment who define themselves as bisexual, but very few women who really consider themselves bisexual once you talk about feelings or seduction with them. Why does this happen? Are they not true bisexuals? To answer these questions, we must first stop to define bisexuality and some related terms with which it can be confused.
What do you need to know about female bisexuality?
Bisexuality is the orientation of desire towards persons of both sexes. Very similar is the concept of pansexuality, which is also an orientation of desire but towards people regardless of their sex, gender and sexual orientation. Generally, people who define themselves as pansexual reject the traditional binarism with which people are usually defined (male-female; masculine-feminine…) and declare an intersexual approach that takes into account sexuality in its greatest diversity. But for practical purposes, they are what until today had been understood as bisexuals, and although most people so understand, it is necessary to make the distinction and give each one the place it deserves.
On the other hand, it is important to distinguish between identity, the orientation of desire, and sexual preference in order to understand clearly what can happen in the liberal world when a woman defines herself as bisexual.
Identity is what we define ourselves with, what I feel I am, and here again we must leave the traditional binarism to contemplate the wide diversity of identities. On one side of the interval would be the category “woman”, on the other side “man”, and in between would fit as many identities as there are people, and all are equally valid and respectable.
What is the difference between identity and orientation of desire?
On the other hand, the orientation of desire refers to attraction, to whom I feel attracted, in this case we would find homosexual people at one end of the range and heterosexual people at the other end, taking into account that in between there are all the forms of desire that everyone can imagine (heteroflexible, bi, pansexual, homoflexible, asexual or arromantic…) to which we could dedicate an entire article to describe in detail what each one refers to.
What we can learn from the high percentage of women who identify as bisexual?
Finally, we have to talk about sexual preference, that is, what we feel like doing at a given moment and in a given circumstance. And this third concept is the one that I consider that most of the women in the liberal world are referred to as bisexual, I say most because I understand that many will define themselves as bisexual being very clear about it.
Reflecting on these issues, I was struck by the fact that worldwide the demographic incidence of bisexuality did not have a very high percentage and that in the liberal world a very high percentage of women consider themselves to be bisexual. And it has not been easy to find data because there are few studies that take into account bisexuality as such, they usually speak of “non-heterosexuals” and this category usually does not reach even 15% of the world population (without making distinctions by sex or the different categories it examines).
The curious difference between social representations of bisexual women and men
I would like to point out the curious difference between the social representation of female and male bisexuality. In the first case, bisexual women are always considered as promiscuous people; on the other hand, bisexual men are frequently considered as heterosexual men who are very open to experimentation. Once again, female sexuality is punished and pigeonholed into a rather negative stereotype.
My opinion is that, although each case will have its own story, most of them (and without pretending to fall into generalities) simply contemplate the possibility that at a certain time, and with the right person, they may come into contact with other women. Falling in love with them, contemplating a medium or long-term relationship, is another matter.
How to Define Your Sexual Identity?
It should be noted that liberal contact sites do not make it easy for each person to define themselves clearly, since the possibilities offered when filling in the “file” of each profile do not have so many possibilities and this leads to ambiguous definitions.
In any case, and getting rid of labels that despite making many groups visible, in the end they always restrict, I find fascinating the ability of many women to live their sexuality without any shame, without fear, effectively doing what they feel like doing at any time without limitations as to the sex of the other person, allowing themselves to let go and enjoy from their own desire.