如何識別搖擺者？

這 4 個最重要的線索可以作為其他徘徊者的麵包屑。

是否有某些方法可以識別搖擺者？

這是在搖擺樂社群中經常出現的百萬問題。

我們搖擺朋友的共識是，如果有特定的標誌或符號代表這種生活方式，沒有搖擺者會因為害怕被出局而使用。

我們有朋友試圖利用色彩繽紛的草坪擺飾或奇特的植物，向其他人傳達自我認同的生活方式煙霧信號。

這些小線索可以作為其他正在觀察的搖擺者的麵包屑，但通常不會厚顏無恥到不小心把這些線索傳給他們的朋友和鄰居。

Although the swingers we know may not display a banner that says “swingers partying” in their front yard, that doesn’t mean it’s completely impossible to find clues and signs that your neighbors may be in the lifestyle.

識別搖擺者的跡象

以下是我們多年來和我們的同性戀朋友一起發現的一些跡象。

1.他們的花園裡有草坪侏儒。

可愛、甜美、色彩繽紛的草坪侏儒一直與搖擺樂社群有關。

Our neighbors, who have no idea we are swingers, often joke that others in our neighborhood have gnomes and don’t know their true meaning. I always joke back and tell them that Martha and John may well be 80 by now – you never know!

回想一下，我奶奶的院子裡就有很多草地侏儒。也許這個搖擺的東西是遺傳的？

2.他們佩戴奇特的首飾。

We’ve heard for years that a black ring on a man’s right hand is a way to identify other swingers. Or that a woman wearing an anklet on her right ankle is a sign that a couple is out and about and open to meeting other swingers.

While these might be clues to identification, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t trust these clues alone or try to break the ice by asking, “…so I see your ring/ankle, are you a swinger?”

我們最近得知有一個國際性的搖擺者符號。他們的網站提供珠寶、服裝、臨時紋身和飾品，以幫助吸引和識別全世界志同道合的人。

While we might wear something like this when we’re out of town or traveling, we certainly wouldn’t wear it locally for fear of being easily outed.

3.他們有一個熱水浴缸。

Having a hot tub on your back patio has always been associated with being a member of the swinging community. While I don’t necessarily think this is a safe way to say it, it is definitely a sign.

當然，我們有一個熱水浴缸，我們許多生活方式的朋友也有！

我們的是在進入這種生活方式之前購買的，但也許在潛意識中我們就知道我們注定要搖擺？

4.隨著年齡的增長，它們似乎會變得更熱。

我們所認識的搖擺者就像美酒一樣陳年。

回想起您的約會歲月，您是否還記得為了給您的約會對象留下深刻印象而付出的努力？

我們這些生活方式中的人仍然會做出這樣的努力。

While most people our age are skipping the gym, dropping waxing from their priority list, and showering once a week, we’re still keeping things tight from head to toe.

If you’re part of the swinging lifestyle, it’s important to take care of your health and appearance. My husband and I look better now, in our late 30s, than we did when we were 25.

其他謠傳的 Swingers 標誌和符號

We’ve heard of several other symbols and signs being used over the years, but couldn’t really confirm any of them as accurate.

網路上流傳的其他幾個謠言包括：前院的潘帕斯草原、鳳梨門鈴、花園中的粉紅火烈鳥、戴腳趾環的女性，以及情侶配對的陰陽紋身。

儘管我們這種生活方式中的大多數人都會盡力維護自己的隱私，但仍有一些跡象可以識別出搖擺者。

如果您最喜歡的鄰居戴著奇特的首飾、草坪上滿布地精、有一個超大的熱水浴缸，而且越來越熱，而周遭的人卻越來越老，那麼他們可能就是蕩婦。