如何识别 Swingers？

这 4 条最重要的线索是其他徘徊者的面包屑。

识别 Swingers 的方法有哪些？

这是摇摆舞界经常出现的百万美元问题。

我们的 "摇摆 "朋友一致认为，如果有一种特定的生活方式标志或符号，那么任何 "摇摆 "者都不会因为害怕被发现而使用它。

我们有一些朋友曾试图用五颜六色的草坪装饰品或奇异植物来向其他人发出自我认同的烟雾信号。

这些小线索可以为其他正在寻找的摇摆者提供面包屑，但他们通常不会明目张胆地把这些线索无意中透露给他们的朋友和邻居。

Although the swingers we know may not display a banner that says “swingers partying” in their front yard, that doesn’t mean it’s completely impossible to find clues and signs that your neighbors may be in the lifestyle.

识别 Swingers 的标志

以下是我们多年来与我们的换妻朋友们一起发现的一些征兆。

1.他们的花园里有草坪侏儒。

可爱、甜美、色彩斑斓的草坪侏儒总是与摇摆社区联系在一起。

Our neighbors, who have no idea we are swingers, often joke that others in our neighborhood have gnomes and don’t know their true meaning. I always joke back and tell them that Martha and John may well be 80 by now – you never know!

想起来了，我奶奶的院子里到处都是草坪侏儒。也许摇摆是遗传的？

2.他们佩戴奇特的珠宝。

We’ve heard for years that a black ring on a man’s right hand is a way to identify other swingers. Or that a woman wearing an anklet on her right ankle is a sign that a couple is out and about and open to meeting other swingers.

While these might be clues to identification, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t trust these clues alone or try to break the ice by asking, “…so I see your ring/ankle, are you a swinger?”

我们最近了解到，有一个国际性的摇摆人标志。他们的网站提供珠宝、服装、临时纹身和饰品，帮助吸引和识别全世界志同道合的人。

While we might wear something like this when we’re out of town or traveling, we certainly wouldn’t wear it locally for fear of being easily outed.

3.他们有一个热水浴缸。

Having a hot tub on your back patio has always been associated with being a member of the swinging community. While I don’t necessarily think this is a safe way to say it, it is definitely a sign.

当然，我们有一个热水浴缸，我们的许多生活方式朋友也有！

我们的房子是在进入这种生活方式之前买的，但也许我们潜意识里就知道我们注定要摇摆？

4.它们似乎越老越热。

我们认识的摇摆人就像美酒一样越陈越香。

回想起你的约会岁月，你是否还记得为了给约会对象留下深刻印象而付出的努力？

我们这些热爱生活的人仍然在做出这样的努力。

While most people our age are skipping the gym, dropping waxing from their priority list, and showering once a week, we’re still keeping things tight from head to toe.

If you’re part of the swinging lifestyle, it’s important to take care of your health and appearance. My husband and I look better now, in our late 30s, than we did when we were 25.

其他传闻中的 Swingers 标志和符号

We’ve heard of several other symbols and signs being used over the years, but couldn’t really confirm any of them as accurate.

网上流传的其他一些传言还包括：前院种满潘帕斯草、菠萝门把手、花园里有粉色火烈鸟、女人戴脚趾环、情侣间有匹配的阴阳纹身等。

虽然我们中的大多数人都会竭力维护自己的隐私，但仍有一些迹象表明，摇摆者是可以被识别出来的。

如果你最喜欢的邻居戴着奇特的首饰，草坪上有很多小矮人，有一个超大的热水浴缸，而且越来越热，而周围的人却越来越老，那么他们可能就是换妻狂。